It’s no secret that when you have self-confidence issues, a big part of them come from worrying whether or not other people like you. Fear of rejection plays a big role in this, because it makes it hard for you to connect with others on any level, let alone an authentic one. It’s not surprising really, when you stop to think about it. If you aren’t confident in your ability to be yourself and don’t like yourself, it’s hard to expect others will.
Living with a fear of rejection is something I’ve gotten pretty good at over the years. From being the funny-looking kid with “bucky beaver” teeth, being two years younger and a foot taller than everyone else in my classes, to the overweight adult version with the wildly eclectic tastes, I have always been the outsider wanting to be accepted, and yet fearing it at the same time. Dealing with rejection has been part and parcel of my mindset since childhood.
Even now on those days when my confidence takes a hit, I sometimes find myself back there wondering “why don’t they like me?”